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Today's newsletter is specifically for the guys.

Although if you're a woman, I think you'll probably get a lot out of it as well.

There's a lot of bad advice out there for men when it comes to marriage.

A lot.

A few weeks ago, Karen and I attended a wedding in Cleveland for our good friend's son.

During the reception, we were selected along with 2 other couples, to stand up and give a little advice to the newly weds on their big day.

You've probably seen this done at a wedding before.

After the first dances were over, we got up in front of everyone, along with a few other couples, and one-by-one started giving out advice on how to make a marriage last.

I got a good chuckle out of watching the other two guys up there dish out their "advice".

They looked and sounded like two beaten-down dogs that had given up on life .

"Whatever she says, just say YES!  It will save you a lot of headaches" the first guy muttered.

Everyone laughed.

"Your days of being right are over.  Remember that.  Just go along with what she says and you'll thank me later" said the second guy.

The crowd erupted in laughter again.

And while everyone in the crowd got a good chuckle from both of these guys advice, I felt an underlying sense of sadness when I heard this.

Why?

Because this is the way most guys live.

And it's a major disservice to themselves and to their wives.

So when the mic was handed to me, I went a different route...

"Josh, I'm going to give you a little bit different advice from what you've been hearing.  In fact this will be the exact opposite of what you usually hear.

Your wife wants you to lead.  

She wants you to be strong and to make decisions.

She wants you to have a plan and for you to be the rock in your marriage.

She wants to be at your side and to know that you're always looking out for the best interest of the two of you, even if what you're doing upsets her at the time.

If you're planning a night out, she doesn't want to always be asked "what do you want to do?".

She wants you to take charge and make a decision.

Because when you lead, she feels safe.  

And when she feels safe and she feels cared for, she will feel like the woman she's always wanted to be"  


When I said this I spoke from my heart.

I spoke from past experience.

And I know in today's PC society, that a whole bunch of people probably took offense to what I said.

Well too bad for them, because they're missing out on some great insight.

Over the next few hours at the reception, I had probably 7-8 women come up and tell me that they LOVED what I said.  

One of the women even secretly confessed that she wished their own husband acted that way.

Which brings me to my point...

If you want your marriage to be better.  

Maybe you want more passion, more love, more fun, more romance...

Then you need to lead.

Most men don't do this because they're afraid of being "controlling".  

But being controlling is completely different from leading. 

Women love a man who leads.

They crave it.

When a man leads, it allows them to be their feminine self. 

Keep that in mind...

God Bless,

- Jeff Reagan
Founder, Patriot Health Alliance