Today's newsletter is specifically for the guys.
Although if you're a woman, I think you'll probably get a lot
out of it as well.
There's a lot of bad advice out there for men when it comes to
A few weeks ago, Karen and I attended a wedding in Cleveland for
our good friend's son.
During the reception, we were selected along with 2 other
couples, to stand up and give a little advice to the newly weds
on their big day.
You've probably seen this done at a wedding before.
After the first dances were over, we got up in front of
everyone, along with a few other couples, and one-by-one started
giving out advice on how to make a marriage last.
I got a good chuckle out of watching the other two guys up there
dish out their "advice".
They looked and sounded like two beaten-down dogs that had given
up on life .
"Whatever she says, just say YES! It will save you a lot of
headaches" the first guy muttered.
"Your days of being right are over. Remember that. Just go
along with what she says and you'll thank me later" said the
The crowd erupted in laughter again.
And while everyone in the crowd got a good chuckle from both of
these guys advice, I felt an underlying sense of sadness when I
Because this is the way most guys live.
And it's a major disservice to themselves and to their wives.
So when the mic was handed to me, I went a different route...
I'm going to give you a little bit different advice from what
you've been hearing. In fact this will be the exact opposite of
what you usually hear.
Your wife wants you to lead.
She wants you to be strong and to make decisions.
She wants you to have a plan and for you to be the rock in your
She wants to be at your side and to know that you're always
looking out for the best interest of the two of you, even if
what you're doing upsets her at the time.
If you're planning a night out, she doesn't want to always be
asked "what do you want to do?".
She wants you to take charge and make a decision.
Because when you lead, she feels safe.
And when she feels safe and she feels cared for, she will feel
like the woman she's always wanted to be"
When I said this I spoke from my heart.
I spoke from past experience.
And I know in today's PC society, that a whole bunch of people
probably took offense to what I said.
Well too bad for them, because they're missing out on some great
Over the next few hours at the reception, I had probably 7-8
women come up and tell me that they LOVED what I said.
One of the women even secretly confessed that she wished their
own husband acted that way.
Which brings me to my point...
If you want your marriage to be better.
Maybe you want more passion, more love, more fun, more
Then you need to lead.
Most men don't do this because they're afraid of being
But being controlling is completely different from leading.
Women love a man who leads.
They crave it.
When a man leads, it allows them to be their feminine self.
Keep that in mind...
- Jeff Reagan
Founder, Patriot Health Alliance